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How to Give Effective After-the-Fact Feedback to a Trainee

April 1, 2016 By Peter Krol

I’ve written about how to coach a Bible study apprentice before and during a small group Bible study meeting. Once the meeting is over and you meet to debrief, what should you cover?

The Dangers

First, don’t be afraid to speak truth. You are coaching this apprentice, after all. Of course you should share evidences of God’s grace and highlight what went well. But don’t avoid sharing what could improve for the future.

Second, avoid the urge to criticize everything that went wrong, even if you’ve got an exceptionally teachable apprentice who asks you to speak frankly. Don’t do this to your apprentice because God doesn’t do it to you. Imagine how you’d feel if God revealed every weakness, sin, and failure of yours at one time. Even if you just sang, “Take my life and let it be consecrated, Lord, to thee,” the Lord is merciful and compassionate. He instructs us piecemeal over the course of a lifetime. Take the same approach with your apprentice.

Third, avoid the tendency to nitpick. Keep in mind that there are some things your apprentice can never go back and fix. Once they’re done, they’re done; you can help the apprentice to move on by not highlighting all the things that should have been different. Just focus on the things that will help this person to improve.

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My Approach

Highlight many things that went well.
Mention one or two patterns for improvement.
End with more positives, focusing on the good results God brought about.

I’ve read some who ridicule this “criticism sandwich” approach (positive-negative-positive) because it can certainly be done in a trite and patronizing way. But when it comes out of love and has real substance to it, this approach helps leaders build influence. Would you prefer for your apprentice to come to your meetings dreading the laundry list of failures to be aired once again, and expecting to be labelled as weak if offense is taken? Or would you prefer for the apprentice to come with delight and eagerness, knowing that much profit and encouragement will come from the feedback offered?

Let me explain the process a bit further:

Be as specific as possible with the encouragement. Don’t settle for “it went well.” Be ready to show the apprentice what went well. For example, “The way you transitioned us from mingling to the beginning of the study was really clear. Everyone knew what to expect.” Or, “I know that Sam can be overly talkative. When he went off on his uncle’s latest surgery, you did a great job hearing him with compassion while also drawing his attention back to the topic at hand.”
Notice that point #2 is about mentioning patterns for improvement. If a single mistake was made, let it go. Perhaps the apprentice already noticed it and will self-correct. But if a pattern of the same mistake kept occurring, talk about it. And pick just one or two of these patterns to reflect and ask the apprentice to work on the next time.
Make sure you end by making much of God, not the apprentice. In part 3 of the feedback, focus on the tangible results you saw from the apprentice’s leadership of the meeting. For example, “When you asked your final application question, Robert really perked up. I think the Lord was working in him, and he used your question to get Robert’s attention!”

Not My Approach

I can’t take credit for this threefold approach to offering after-the-fact feedback. I learned it from others, and we can see it in the Scripture. For example, look at John’s approach to offering feedback in his third letter. John wrote a prior letter to a congregation of Christians (2 John), but this letter was ill received by some. John has some feedback for one of the leaders to help him address these issues for the good of the church.

3 John 1-8: John gets very specific about what has gone well. Fellow believers have testified to Gaius’s firmness in the truth (3 John 3). Gaius stands firm also in love (3 John 5), shown by his welcoming of missionaries and sending them out refreshed (3 John 6-8).
3 John 9-10: John highlights a persistent pattern that must be addressed. Diotrephes, presumably another leader in the church, promotes himself, disregards John’s apostolic authority, and speaks slanderous nonsense. He doesn’t welcome missionaries, and he coerces others to shun those who do. Something must be done. John will deal with it when he comes, but perhaps his letter seeks to embolden Gaius to steadfastly oppose this wrongdoing in the meantime.
3 John 11-15: John closes with evidences of God’s grace within the church. Another man named Demetrius has a strong reputation for goodness and truth. John affirms this reputation, possibly suggesting Demetrius as a replacement for Diotrephes on the elder board. Regardless, an in-person meeting will take place between John and Gaius, and many greetings are sent Gaius’s way. Though the problems may not be ignored, Gaius has much to be encouraged about.

Developing Laborers

In training Bible study apprentices, we strive to raise more laborers for the harvest. We aim to encourage and strengthen them in their labor. And we want to keep them aware of one or two things they can practice for improvement. Such clarity in our training will root them in the gospel, motivate them to lay down their lives, and enable them to overcome adversity. And with such personal training, the Kingdom of God advances in the earth.

How to Coach a New Bible Study Leader During the Meeting

March 18, 2016 By Peter Krol

I’ve encouraged you to be a coach, not a lifeguard, when your apprentice begins leading Bible studies. Last week, I explained how to do this when helping the apprentice prepare for the meeting. But what does it look like to do this at the meeting itself?

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A lifeguard looks for failure; a coach encourages success.

A lifeguard is vigilant, on edge; a coach inspires.

A lifeguard demands attention; a coach demands excellence.

A lifeguard rescues; a coach stays on the sidelines.

What does this mean for you, the coach, during the Bible study?

1. Follow the Leader

Let the apprentice decide when to make transitions (for example, from mingling to beginning the discussion). If the apprentice looks to you to signal a transition, just sit there patiently looking back. Respond quickly to the apprentice’s leadership; don’t drag your feet if you would have done it differently.

2. Plug Some Gaps

If the apprentice asks a question that meets with silence, suggest a possible answer. Don’t revert to “teaching mode”; just offer an answer to help reignite discussion. Don’t sit there like a sack of potatoes; take part just like everyone else.

3. Clarify When Necessary

If the apprentice asks a confusing question, respond respectfully with a clarifying question. “When you ask how this applies to our lives, are you asking about Jesus’ parable or the disciples’ response to it?”

4. Be Okay with Silence

Participate, but don’t dominate. If the apprentice asks a poor question, and the discussion falls flat, don’t rephrase the question or ask a different one. Let the silence sit, and let the apprentice figure out how to recover. Moments of awkward silence generate terrific coaching opportunities later when you meet to evaluate the meeting.

5. Act Normal

It’s okay if group members know you are coaching the apprentice. But they shouldn’t feel excluded, as though you and the apprentice have a secret, non-verbal code between you. Avoid too much body language or conspiratorial collusion in the corner of the room. Just act normal; you’ll have plenty of time to evaluate and instruct when you meet with the apprentice one-on-one.

If you want the apprentice to learn to lead, you must give the apprentice room to lead. Go ahead and call the plays in advance. But once it’s game time, you get to watch your team do its thing. You could be the sort of coach who shouts and gets mad during the game, but why would you want to? Better to simply let the games reveal what to work on in practice.

How to Help Someone Plan a Bible Study

March 11, 2016 By Peter Krol

Studying the Bible and leading a Bible study are not the same thing. Though they’re composed of the same raw materials, the order of events makes all the difference.

When I study the Bible on my own I follow the steps (roughly) in order:

Observe
Interpret
1. Ask questions
2. Answer questions
3. Determine the main point
Connect the main point to Jesus
Apply

Of course, it’s organic and cyclical. But the workflow generally moves in order through these steps (see the OIA infographic).

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But when I lead a Bible study, I arrange the same steps in a different order:

Launching question introduces the main point.
Opening application.
Observation and interpretation questions are all mixed up.
Determine the main point.
Connect the main point to Jesus.
Application questions.

When Bible study apprentices are ready to begin leading studies (the “You do; I help” stage of training), I make sure to help them see the difference. In our private study, we begin with a blank page. But in public teaching (including small group discussions), we begin with a nudge in the right direction. In all settings, public or private, we listen to the text and don’t presume upon it. And as leaders, we can help group members also to listen carefully to the text.

So when I meet with an apprentice to prepare the next Bible study, I have a few goals. The preparation meeting usually follows this agenda:

Study the passage together and reach agreement about its main point.
Come up with specific applications for ourselves.
Come up with some application questions for the group.
List a few observation and interpretation questions that will help the group reach the main point.
Craft a strong launching question that will plant the seeds of the main point in the study’s opening minutes.

By the end of the meeting, I want the apprentice to have enough material to create a set of leader’s notes. I offer much direction to make this happen. But after doing this for a few months, the workflow passes through a series of phases:

Phase 1 (should have happened by now): I create the leader’s notes, but we meet to discuss them before the study.

Phase 2: Apprentice and I meet to create the leader’s notes together.

Phase 3: Apprentice creates the leader’s notes without me, but then we meet to discuss them.

Phase 4: Apprentice creates the leader’s notes without me, but emails them to me for feedback before the study. In this phase, my regular meeting with the apprentice focuses on shepherding the people (discussing how they’re doing, next steps, etc.).

Phase 5: Apprentice leads the study, and I never see the notes. I now give feedback on the study itself, only after the fact.

The point here is for the apprentice to have a steady increase in responsibility, along with a steady decrease in oversight. The details may look different for each person, but the key is to keep moving forward. And this movement should be gradual. If you go right from Phase 1 to Phase 5, most apprentices will feel abandoned and disheartened.

As the apprentice masters each phase of responsibility, we move into the next one. Such visible progress inspires and builds trust.

Passing the Leadership Baton

March 4, 2016 By Peter Krol

As you raise up a new Bible study leader, the time will come for you to enter the third stage of training: You do, I help. At this point, you hand over the meeting’s leadership and let the apprentice have at it. Because your apprentice has demonstrated much faithfulness and readiness to advance, you may be tempted to jump too quickly to the fourth stage (You do, I watch). Or, you might suddenly feel greater fear of failure and be tempted to clamp back down.

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So this transition needs some delicacy as you hold competing values in tension.

1. Take risks, but don’t be foolish

Face it: You don’t know how the apprentice will do. That’s okay, and that’s the risk of training. It would be simpler to continue leading yourself, but you know it’s not worth it. Handing over leadership is scary and relieving at the same time, so we should prepare for the risk.

However, we’re not jumping off a cliff, blind-folded. If the apprentice is not ready, don’t do it. If a moral failure or clear incompetence comes to light, deal with it. Riskiness may sometimes feel like idiocy, but the two are as different as Jacob and Esau.

2. Be present, but don’t take over

You’re not turning the whole thing over just yet; your apprentice needs you to continue attending the meetings. And as you attend, people will still see you as the leader. And when people see you as the leader, they’ll continue treating you as the leader. And when they treat you as the leader, you’ll fall back into that role like a recovering alcoholic in a liquor store.

You must resist this urge. If someone directs a question at you, deflect it over to the apprentice. As people make eye contact with you, turn your gaze toward the apprentice. Don’t make too many suggestions, even if the apprentice clearly misses what to do next.

Don’t be awkward, of course. You should take part in the discussion just as much as anyone else. Just as much, that is, and no more.

3. Empower, but don’t enable

Make sure the apprentice knows who is holding the baton. Clarify your role: That you will take part in the discussion, but you won’t set the direction. The apprentice has real authority to conduct this orchestra. The apprentice may make different choices than you have made with this group. The apprentice will receive credit for the orchestra’s performance. And the apprentice will be held responsible for anything out of tune.

And if the apprentice offends everyone in the room with an unforeseen lack of discernment, don’t make excuses in the name of delegation. Deal with issues as they arise.

4. Plan and evaluate, but don’t execute

Continue meeting with the apprentice to discuss each meeting. Evaluate the last one, and plan for the next one. Clarify the goals for each meeting, and possibly for each group member. Study the next Bible passage together to develop a main point and some possible applications.

But then let the apprentice pull it off. Be a coach, not a lifeguard. You might call the plays, but you’re not allowed on the field. You can’t jump in for the rescue when things go wrong.

In short, if you keep your grip while passing the baton, you’ll never finish the race.

When to Suspend an Apprentice’s Training

February 26, 2016 By Peter Krol

Though Canaan would later hold about 2 million Israelites, Abraham released Lot, his heir and protege, on the younger man’s excuse that “the land could not support both of them” (Gen 13:5-6).¹

The prophet Elisha sent his servant Gehazi out of his presence (2 Kings 5:27). Paul chose rather to split from his partner Barnabas than continue training John Mark (Acts 15:37-40). And though Jesus trained many disciples, there were also many he could not or would not train (Luke 9:57-62, Mark 5:18-20, 10:21-22, John 6:66).

I confess it’s not a pleasant topic, but it’s one we must grapple with. Not all apprentices will complete their training and lead their own Bible studies. Some will pull themselves out of the training, and others will need to be pulled out. How do leaders make such decisions?

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Clear Guidance from Jesus

In the Sermon on the Mount, Jesus spoke to his disciples—within earshot of the crowds (Matt 5:1-2)—about what sort of people make up the citizenry of the kingdom of heaven (Matt 5:3, 10, 20, etc.). After explaining how such citizens can perfectly fulfill the law (Matt 5:17-48), find reward from their Father in heaven (Matt 6:1-18), and treasure this kingdom above all else (Matt 6:19-34), Jesus ends on a sober note.

Not content merely to define the kingdom’s citizens, he wants those citizens to be able to identify those who look like kingdom citizens but truly are not (Matt 7:1-6). Brothers and dogs are not the same species, and they require different tactics. In fact, Jesus urges his disciples to ask for discernment to see the difference between the two (Matt 7:7-12).

Then, assuming they do in fact want this discernment, Jesus concludes his sermon with a series of contrasts meant to sharpen the distinction (Matt 7:13-27). These contrasts will help us decide when to suspend an apprentice’s training.

Please note: I am not suggesting that every apprentice who drops out—or must be kicked out—of Bible study training is necessarily a dog, an outsider to Christ’s kingdom. For example, John Mark eventually turned around and became useful to Paul for ministry (2 Tim 4:11). And some who rejected Jesus later believed (John 7:5, 1 Cor 9:5, James 1:1, Jude 1:1).

I am merely suggesting that if someone currently shows the signs that one outside the kingdom would show, you may want to reconsider whether further leadership training is a good investment. You may honor the Lord by giving this person time to grow, and by finding someone else heading in the same direction you are.

What to Expect

Jesus’ first contrast has mostly to do with expectations (Matt 7:13-14):

Enter by the narrow gate. For the gate is wide and the way is easy that leads to destruction, and those who enter by it are many. For the gate is narrow and the way is hard that leads to life, and those who find it are few.

As you train new leaders, remember that few find the way to life. Many—even among those who confess Jesus as Lord (Matt 7:21)—keep themselves on the wide, easy way, the one with destruction, not life, at its end.

So set your expectations appropriately. Many people you meet will not be interested in Jesus. Many people interested in Jesus will not be interested in Bible study. Many people interested in Bible study will not make good leadership candidates. And not many leadership candidates will become good leaders.

It’s a sad fact of life on a fallen planet. But knowing this fact, you’ll be more effective as a trainer. When you find the right people, you will go farther faster than if you keep dragging the wrong people along with you.

Test #1: Bearing Fruit

Jesus’ second contrast tells us what to look for (Matt 7:15-23):

Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep’s clothing but inwardly are ravenous wolves. You will recognize them by their fruits…Thus you will recognize them by their fruits. Not everyone who says to me ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven…

When training your apprentices, look for fruit. And in particular, the fruit you’re looking for is not merely a confession of Christ (Matt 7:21). False prophets will look just like sheep: attending, serving, listening, learning, engaging with the community. The fruit is also not ministry success. Some false prophets will claim to speak in God’s name. Some will cast out demons and truly help people. Others will do many mighty works in Jesus’ name (Matt 7:22).

But the only fruit that matters is the fruit of doing the Father’s will (Matt 7:21). And Jesus already made clear: The Father’s will has to do with character: spiritual poverty, mourning, meekness, thirsting for righteousness, mercy, purity, peacemaking, endurance (Matt 5:3-12).

Test #2: Hearing and Doing

Jesus’ final contrast has to do with openness to instruction (Matt 7:24-27):

Everyone then who hears these words of mine and does them will be like a wise man who built his house on the rock…And everyone who hears these words of mine and does not do them will be like a foolish man who built his house on the sand…

As you train your apprentices, you will instruct them. And I hope you instruct them with Jesus’ words from Scripture. As you do, pay attention to how the apprentices respond.

If they regularly argue with you or fight the instruction, watch out. If they blame people in the group for their mistakes, watch out. If they make excuses for everything you bring up, watch out. If they withdraw, get touchy, or are difficult to approach—watch out. If they point out everything you’ve done wrong, listen and learn. And then watch out.

But if they take the instruction to heart and do it—you’ve found something rare and precious.

Two gates, two fruit trees, and two builders. These three contrasts will help you know whether to suspend an apprentice’s training or continue moving forward.

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¹ Some may object that I’m quoting the narrator and not Lot. Yet I would argue from the flow of the story that, on this point, the narrator tells the tale from Lot’s perspective and not as an objective observer.

Teach Your Child to Listen to the Sermon

February 22, 2016 By Ryan Higginbottom

A trip to the beach is the high point of my family’s summer, and we think about it for weeks before and after our feet hit the waves. My children bubble with excitement when we stuff the car with kites and sand toys. Lovingly prepared lunches and snacks stay untouched in the cooler as they splash and dig and run and build. Back at home, they pore over their shell collections and the pictures we’ve taken.

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Most parents naturally use these three phases mentioned above (before, during, and after) to help their children get the most out of many experiences. These categories provide a useful structure to help our children listen to the weekly sermon at church.

Before the Sermon

Start by introducing the sermon text to your child during the week. If your son has personal devotions, give him the relevant passage for a day or two and see what observations and questions he generates. For younger ones, read them the passage or play the audio version a few times during meals or at bedtime.

Family devotions are a great way to help your children learn to study the Bible. Why not take a night or two each week to prepare for the sermon? This helps both parents and children think through the passage, understand its context, and pray for Sunday morning.

During the Sermon

As with adults, the main challenge for children during the sermon is to listen.

Though children usually enjoy the singing and can hang on during prayer and the offering, the sermon can be tough. How much we should expect from our children varies with age and development. Parents can train their children to sit and listen by providing direction and materials.

When children are very young, tap into their love of crayons and markers. Provide some pictures relevant to the sermon text for them to color. If they like to draw, encourage them to create a picture inspired by the sermon. (Plant picture ideas as you discuss the Bible passage during the week!)

When my oldest could read and write but was not yet able to listen for long stretches, I made a sermon worksheet for her each week. These sheets had some short-answer questions, some blanks to fill in, and some questions requiring more thought. During the sermon I asked her to read the relevant passage and fill out her sheet. After that, she could read or color something else of her choosing.

Older children should be able to pay attention to most sermons. Taking notes usually helps them to focus. Parents can nurture this skill by providing some examples of note-taking and some simple instructions.

After the Sermon

To help your child process the sermon, talk with him about it afterward. Lunchtime on Sunday is perfect for this.

Read the passage again as a family and ask your child to explain his drawing or notes. Find out what he remembers from the sermon. Expand the conversation so that parents and siblings have a chance to share their thoughts.

Parents should lead a brief discussion here: What is the main point of the passage? How does this relate to Jesus? How can we apply the passage individually? As a family? As a church?

Be gracious and understanding as you lead your child through this process. Listening, focusing, and remembering are difficult skills that take practice and maturity to develop.

A Final Note to Preachers

Preachers, remember there are young sheep in your flock. They may wiggle and fidget more than most, but they need the Shepherd too.

I’m not advocating you turn your sermon into a ten-minute Vacation Bible School message, complete with song and costume. But keeping the whole flock of God in mind will affect your preaching.

Take care in your vocabulary. Don’t use unnecessarily complicated words. Define terms that might not be familiar.
Choose illustrations that will capture children’s attention. Don’t be ashamed to pull from nursery rhymes or fables. Throw in some animals, princesses, or battle scenes from time to time.
Finally, remember the children in your applications. Prepare several applications and include some specifically for children. Don’t tire of repetition—children need to hear the commands to obey parents, love siblings, and tell others about Jesus over and over. And remember Jesus in all of your applications! We communicate a lot about God’s grace in the way we frame applications of the Bible.

In some churches, children make up almost half the congregation. By helping them to focus on the Bible through the sermon, we train up the next generation of Christians and add to the Bible study culture of the church.

5 Signs They’re Ready to Lead

February 19, 2016 By Peter Krol

As you train a new Bible study leader, how do you know when the person is ready to start leading? When should you move an apprentice from the “I do, you help” to the “You do, I help” stage of training? If we advance people too quickly, they may burn out and give up. If we move them too slowly, the training could become stagnant and lifeless. What are the signs of a good balance?

1. When they ask for more

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I made this point when I wrote of the prior transition between stages, and I repeat it now. High commitment + low motivation = small chance of long-term perseverance. But when your apprentice is motivated to take more responsibility, it’s worth it to consider giving it.

2. When they can communicate God’s word

By “communicate,” I mean more than “teach.” Of course they should be able to study the word and teach its main points. But potential leaders should also live out the word and habitually apply it to themselves. They handle the word well and allow it to handle them. Because Jesus said those who abide in his word show themselves his true disciples (John 8:31), this expectation marks a baseline for those who also want to make disciples.

3. When they have deep compassion for the people in the group

Jesus gave more signs of true disciples, one of which is love for one another (John 13:35). Jesus spoke and served out of deep compassion (Mark 6:34, 8:2), and his undershepherds are similarly motivated (1 Thess 2:8, 2:17-3:13). Is your apprentice driven more by the flock’s needs than by personal gain? Does the apprentice want a platform from which to speak, or is there an observable propensity to listen? Do group members trust the apprentice to have their best interests at heart?

4. When they have made sacrifices for the group and its members

If discipleship is costly (Luke 14:25-33), ministry is even more so. Those who will lead people must invest themselves in those people. Your apprentice prepares for leadership by making regular sacrifices for others, such as helping you to lead, coordinating activities, or getting together with group members outside the regular meeting. If you see these sacrifices taking place, without resentment or complaining, your apprentice may be ready to lead.

5. When group members trust them enough to follow them

Jesus’ final sign of true discipleship—bearing much fruit (John 15:8)—can be controversial, because we’re not sure how to hold people accountable to something over which they have no control. Even the best leaders can face widespread rejection and seasons of wilderness; they might have no control over people’s responses to their leadership. Just think of Moses (Exodus 2:11-15, 3:1), Elijah (1 Kings 19:1-18), and Paul (2 Tim 1:15). We can even think of Jesus himself (Mark 14:50, 15:34)—the one who could have controlled responses if he wanted to.

And yet we consider each of these leaders a hero. Though they experienced seasons of anguish, loneliness, and death, those seeds eventually sprouted into abundant fruit (John 12:24-26). That’s why the New Testament expects leadership candidates to experience seasons of testing (1 Tim 3:10) and accountability to things they can’t ultimately control (1 Tim 3:4-7).

Be ready to take risks on people who aren’t yet perfect. But also maintain high standards, and look for evidence of effective leadership. Look for the fruit of trusting, eager followers.

One Thing You Must Know About Meeting With Your Apprentice

February 12, 2016 By Peter Krol

If you’d like to train someone to lead a Bible study, and you’re ready to take the risk, you might just be waiting for a post about what to actually do when you meet with your apprentice. This is your post. There is one thing you must know, and then I’ll share some specifics about how I do it.

First, what you must know: You don’t need to follow a curriculum. The most common question I receive is “What materials do you use in your ministry?” And I don’t want to sound rude, but, ahem, the Bible is enough. You don’t need workbooks or study guides to tell you what question to ask next. Writers of study guides have much to offer, but they will never know as much as you do about you, your apprentice, your situation, or the needs of your small group. So make clear goals and find whatever direction you need. But major on getting to know your apprentice, shepherding his/her character, and discussing what will most help your group.

Now, when I say “you don’t need to follow a curriculum,” please don’t hear me saying you shouldn’t use a curriculum. Sometimes it can help. Sometimes it scratches the right itch. Sometimes.

So here’s what I do with my current apprentice, Jon. The training with my last apprentice looked different, but Jon and I are still early in our relationship, getting to know each other and learning how to encourage each other. Jon and I meet about every 2 weeks, at 8:15 pm on a weeknight (after our children are in bed), for 60-75 minutes.

“How was your week?”
“How is your marriage (or parenting) going?” (Insert major life responsibility, or chief character aim here.)
“How do you think our small group is going? What is good, and what should we work on?” (Questions 1-3 take 30-45 minutes)
Discuss one chapter of Knowable Word for about 10 minutes. Then we spend 15-20 minutes practicing those skills on the passage we studied at our last small group meeting (making the principles explicit).
Pray for the group and for each other.

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This meeting is neither an interview nor a lecture, but a conversation. I inject it with as much of my personal life as possible so we can get to know each other. Because I’m not the holy Prophet descending the mountain to convey my wisdom before returning to my contemplation, the relationship goes in both directions.

After we finish Knowable Word, I’ll probably have Jon read Growth Groups by Colin Marshall. But again, the discussion will center on the need of the moment, not the next approved subject. The key is not to follow a plan, but to live life together and offer real-time coaching.

I’d love to hear what else you’ve found effective in training apprentices.

Find the Courage to Let Them Try

February 5, 2016 By Peter Krol

Two of my daughters are 18 months apart in age. And Little Sis wants to try everything Big Sis does. Big Sis reads a book; Little Sis wants to read the same book. Big Sis plays a sport; Little Sis wants to try the same sport. Papa hurls Big Sis into the air during a playful tussle; Little Sis demands fellowship in behurlment.

Little Sis spouts her “Can I try?” mantra like a doll with a pull string, and her repetitive, invasive pushiness tempts most of her siblings past the brink of annoyance. Honestly, I’m tempted to be annoyed by it…until I remember how biblical it is.

The Risk of Dumb Ideas

The second stage of training a Bible study apprentice is “I do; you help.” In this stage, you invite the apprentice not only to watch you lead but also to lead along with you. You give the apprentice real responsibility, which is hard to do.

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But as you let that leash out, you run the risk of the apprentice coming up with ideas. And the apprentice may want to carry out some of those ideas. And some of those ideas will be dumb.

Let’s say you are God in the flesh, and you can master the elements of nature however you see fit. You are special, and there is nobody on earth like you. Though most human leaders feel indispensable, only you truly are indispensable. You can do things nobody else can do. In fact, you must do things nobody else can do.

So you go about your business, proving you are the Son of God and preparing to die for the sin of the world. And one night, during the fourth watch, you do the impossible, striding across the sea as though it were a stage for one of your grandest pronouncements: “Take heart; it is I.”

And suddenly, from the cheap seats, a pipsqueak chirps: “Lord, if it is you, command me to come to you on the water.” Yeah, he’s your top guy. Yeah, you’re training him for leadership in great things. You’ve let him begin to help with your ministry. But he’s still a pipsqueak, and it’s still a dumb idea. Shoot it down. Now.

“Come.” (Matt 14:25-33). What?!

Find a Leader’s True Courage

My point is that none of us can out-risk Jesus. Unlike us, he would have succeeded by letting the world revolve around him. Of course, he did exactly that, after a fashion (Col 1:16-17). But unlike us, he quickly drew others in and relied on them to assist in the work. He had the courage to set them loose and let them try things.

He wouldn’t let them exact vengeance (Luke 9:51-56), and he never tolerated idleness (John 4:27, 35-38). But he constantly let them try things.

“You give them something to eat.”
“How many loaves do you have?”
“Go into the villages.”
“I will make you fishers of men.”
“Go and make disciples of all nations.”

Jesus knew he was in control and could turn their mistakes into something beautiful. Our hope is the same: Jesus is in control and can turn mistakes into something beautiful. His resurrection guarantees his plan to make all things new, so we don’t have to fear failure on the part of immature or inexperienced apprentices. When we believe this good news, we’ll find the courage to let them try, and occasionally fail.

Why It’s Hard to Delegate Responsibility

January 29, 2016 By Peter Krol

Peter Rasmussen (2014), Creative Commons

In family life, we call them helicopter parents, because they hover close and swoop in when their wards need rescue. They keep younglings caged and well-padded. They argue over grades with college professors. They sit in on job interviews. They expect daily phone calls and pre-decision consultations.

And these “helicopter parents” run rampant also in Christian ministry. I confess: I am prone to be one of them. But by way of contrast, let me tell a few stories.

Eighteen Months

I know one guy who served the Lord in a previously unreached part of the world. This community tolerated monotheism, and some folks had been influenced by Jewish ideas. But they had never heard of Jesus or his saving work until this man arrived. His ministry got kicked out of its meeting place several times. He made a remarkable number of enemies. He was even abducted and brought before the local judge on charges of anarchy (thankfully, he was acquitted). But he stayed there for a total of 18 months, preaching and making disciples. When God called him elsewhere, he left a thriving church with regular worship services, a reputation for strong teaching, and a group of pastors and elders to shepherd them.

Did you hear that? This guy trained and launched leaders from unbelief, through conversion, and into competent shepherding in 18 months! If someone new came to my Bible study, I might not even let them lead a prayer time in 18 months. I care too much to allow such reckless indiscretion.

On-the-Job Training

Another fellow in my acquaintance focused on itinerant ministry. He gathered a few trainees about him and poured himself into them, while he hit the preaching circuit. I was amazed by his ability to turn absolutely anything into an object lesson. He coached, explained things, served people, and let his apprentices participate and practice. Within a few years, he began booking his apprentices to preach on his behalf.

While I appreciated the multiplying ministry, I also had significant concerns here. A few of these apprentices didn’t yet have a clear Christology (doctrine of Christ). They hadn’t gone to seminary or received any other formal theological training. But this missionary was convinced their syllabus for learning needed a good proportion of teaching to help them progress faster in their training. It was pretty risky and almost created a disaster.

What Holds Us Back

Why is it so hard for me (and perhaps for you) to let people go, to send them out and let them try their hand at ministry? Why do we hover, hang on to responsibility, and pass things off with stalwart reluctance?

Of course, there are many possible answers. But the main reason for me is that I fear failure. It’s the same reason I hated group projects as a student. It’s why I carry burdens I don’t need to carry. It’s why I find it easiest to do something myself.

Can you relate?

Do you ever feel like an unskilled apprentice would reflect negatively on your leadership?
Do you think the stakes are too high for the people you minister to, for a newbie to make mistakes in caring for them?
Do you believe you’re caring for weaker brothers or sisters when you cushion their fall?

One of the best ways people learn is by feeling the pain of their mistakes. If we are serious about training others to lead Bible studies (or do any other kind of ministry), we must take risks. We must launch apprentices quickly, bring them back to debrief, and send them out to try it again. We need to give them real authority to try things. We must be okay with imperfection. We have to make peace with some people’s needs going unmet while the apprentice figures out how to meet them. We can’t jump in and fix it.

We should be okay with mistakes in the Bible study, mistakes in the small group, mistakes in the pulpit. We should never hammer ministry apprentices for trying and failing, though we might need to admonish them for not really trying.

I was not ready to lead my first Bible study, but I needed that first one so the second one could be better. Someone trusted me enough to let me try it. If I were that leader, training up that younger me, I might not have taken the risk. But I praise God for the courageous leaders in my life, and I want to be more like them.

Postscript: I want my argument to be biblical and not merely anecdotal, so allow me to introduce my two missionary friends from the case studies above. You may find them in Acts 18:1-18 and Luke 10:1-24.

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