Perhaps you’ve seen someone defend their wicked or foolish behavior by misquoting Jesus’ immortal command, “Do not judge.” And perhaps you’ve seen fine and thoughtful explanations of the verse (Matt 7:1) that clarify Jesus’ oft-dismissed intention: to prohibit not all judgment but merely hypocritical judgment (Matt 7:2). But let’s also track the flow of Jesus’ argument, the key to which lies in another oft-misquoted verse: The Golden Rule (Matt 7:12)—to guard against possible over-correction to a real problem.

Context matters. If we learn to read the Bible for what it is—and not as a collection of independently assembled proverbial sayings—we’ll discover that some of our most familiar passages say something slightly different from what we’ve always assumed.

A Sermon is a Sermon

These verses from Matthew 7 are part of what we call “The Sermon on the Mount.” And we must not ignore the fact that Matthew presents these verses as part of a sermon (see more on this in my post on Matthew 5).

A sermon has a point. It makes an argument. It seeks to persuade an audience to believe a certain thing or to act a certain way.

A sermon is not…a collection of independently assembled proverbial sayings. So verse 1 is not an independent statement; it’s part of an argument (or series of arguments). The same goes for verse 2, verse 3, and so on. Even verse 12.

Especially verse 12. Which is clearly stated as the current argument’s conclusion: “So whatever you wish that others would do to you, do also to them, for this is the Law and the Prophets.”

The Big Picture

The entire Sermon on the Mount is about citizenship in the kingdom of heaven. Chapter 5 describes the type of person who enters the kingdom (Jesus’ later speech in chapter 13 will expand on this theme). Chapter 6 describes the religion and values of those kingdom citizens (Jesus’ speech in chapter 10 will expand on this theme). A glance at chapter 7 as a whole now shows us that Jesus moves onto how citizens of his kingdom relate with one another (Jesus’ speech in chapter 18 will expand on this theme)—we’ve got not only the judgment and conflict resolution between brothers in Matt 7:1-12; we’ve also got guidance to discern true from false brothers in Matt 7:13-23. Then Matt 7:24-27 concludes the entire sermon.

With that flow in mind, we can take a closer look at Matt 7:1-12.

An Argument Involving Reciprocity

Nearly every sentence in Matt 7:1-12 has a sense of reciprocity. What you do to others will return on you. The way you treat them affects the way they treat you. Somebody does something, and somebody else does something back.

• Judge not, that you be not judged (Matt 7:1).
• The judgement you pronounce will be pronounced on you (Matt 7:2).
• Don’t obsess over the speck in your brother’s eye, while neglecting the log in your own eye (Matt 7:3-5).
• Don’t give holy things to dogs, or they will turn and attack you (Matt 7:6).
• Ask, and it will be given, etc. (Matt 7:7).
• Everyone who asks receives, etc. (Matt 7:8).
• When sons ask, fathers give good things (Matt 7:9-11).
• So/Therefore…do to others whatever you wish they would do to you (Matt 7:12). Implied reason: Because what you do to them will eventually return to you.

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Why We Should Care About Reciprocity

When it comes to our relationships, our conversation, our demeanor, and our fighting style, Jesus wants us to hold this one idea paramount: What goes around, comes around. We ought to anticipate this and “pay it forward.” Do to others what you would like them to do back to you. Don’t expect them to act any differently toward you than you have acted toward them.

He’s not talking mainly about salvation, forgiveness, or acceptance by God, who—praise him!—never treats those who are in Christ as their sins deserve. But he is talking about human communities, personal bickering, hurt feelings, pet peeves, and the astounding dynamic that exists when the blinded try to lead the blind. Citizens of the kingdom of heaven are more righteous than the Pharisees (Matt 5:20). They are even expected to be as perfect as their heavenly Father (Matt 5:48). But they’re clearly not there yet.

They need to get their religion (Matt 6:1-18) and values (Matt 6:19-34) straight. They should not be surprised when they bump into other sinners like themselves (Matt 7).

And when they do, they must be prepared to distinguish between a true—albeit wrong or sinful—brother (Matt 7:1-5, 7-12), and a pig-dog, or false brother (Matt 7:6, 13-23). And the most important thing to remember is: What goes around, comes around.

Reciprocity in Practice

This point is quite simple to grasp but excruciating to put into practice. Yet we must settle for no less (Matt 7:24-27). What is it that Jesus wants us to not only hear but also do?

• Don’t judge (Matt 7:1). This should always be your first reaction. If you can let it go, then let it go. Find any way possible to cover it over in love. Don’t you wish other people wouldn’t size you up so much (Matt 7:2)?
• But Jesus knows that’s not always possible. So your second reaction must be to look at yourself first to see what you have contributed to the tension or conflict (Matt 7:3-4). There is always something. And if you can’t see it, you will not be able to see your brother’s issue clearly (Matt 7:5).
• Remember, though, that not everyone is a brother. There are those who are outside the kingdom (Matt 7:6, also Matt 5:20, 6:7, 6:32), though we learn in Matt 7:13-23 that, outwardly, they might look just like true brothers—unless we know to look at the right bits of evidence. Don’t try to fix non-brothers! Don’t bother to help with their specks. The only result will be your own demise. In this, Jesus taps into the wisdom tradition of Solomon (Prov 9:7-9). (To be more direct: I’m suggesting that the “holy things” and the “pearls” in this verse are rebuke or correction!)

Wouldn’t you love it if others treated you this way? If they didn’t size you up? If they didn’t jump all over everything you did wrong or that hurt them? If they introduced the topic by confessing first how they had failed you? If they trusted you enough as a sibling in Christ to respect you and try to help? If their help came not with accusation but empathy and compassion, respecting your boundaries and hot buttons, and resulting in greater effectiveness for you in the faith?

So whatever you wish that others would do to you, do also to them, for this is the Law and the Prophets.

What’s Next

I’ll stop there for now. But next week, I’ll discuss how the verses in Matt 7:7-11 fit into the argument. Before then, can you take a look at it yourself? Please don’t assume he’s suddenly changing the topic to prayer, and try to see for yourself how those verses advance the argument. I’d love to hear what you come up with. (Note: In Luke 11:1-13, Luke repackages this teaching to give it a clear context of prayer. But Matthew seems to have something different in mind. Let’s not read Luke’s point back into Matthew.)

Context matters.