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Passing the Leadership Baton

March 4, 2016 By Peter Krol

As you raise up a new Bible study leader, the time will come for you to enter the third stage of training: You do, I help. At this point, you hand over the meeting’s leadership and let the apprentice have at it. Because your apprentice has demonstrated much faithfulness and readiness to advance, you may be tempted to jump too quickly to the fourth stage (You do, I watch). Or, you might suddenly feel greater fear of failure and be tempted to clamp back down.

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So this transition needs some delicacy as you hold competing values in tension.

1. Take risks, but don’t be foolish

Face it: You don’t know how the apprentice will do. That’s okay, and that’s the risk of training. It would be simpler to continue leading yourself, but you know it’s not worth it. Handing over leadership is scary and relieving at the same time, so we should prepare for the risk.

However, we’re not jumping off a cliff, blind-folded. If the apprentice is not ready, don’t do it. If a moral failure or clear incompetence comes to light, deal with it. Riskiness may sometimes feel like idiocy, but the two are as different as Jacob and Esau.

2. Be present, but don’t take over

You’re not turning the whole thing over just yet; your apprentice needs you to continue attending the meetings. And as you attend, people will still see you as the leader. And when people see you as the leader, they’ll continue treating you as the leader. And when they treat you as the leader, you’ll fall back into that role like a recovering alcoholic in a liquor store.

You must resist this urge. If someone directs a question at you, deflect it over to the apprentice. As people make eye contact with you, turn your gaze toward the apprentice. Don’t make too many suggestions, even if the apprentice clearly misses what to do next.

Don’t be awkward, of course. You should take part in the discussion just as much as anyone else. Just as much, that is, and no more.

3. Empower, but don’t enable

Make sure the apprentice knows who is holding the baton. Clarify your role: That you will take part in the discussion, but you won’t set the direction. The apprentice has real authority to conduct this orchestra. The apprentice may make different choices than you have made with this group. The apprentice will receive credit for the orchestra’s performance. And the apprentice will be held responsible for anything out of tune.

And if the apprentice offends everyone in the room with an unforeseen lack of discernment, don’t make excuses in the name of delegation. Deal with issues as they arise.

4. Plan and evaluate, but don’t execute

Continue meeting with the apprentice to discuss each meeting. Evaluate the last one, and plan for the next one. Clarify the goals for each meeting, and possibly for each group member. Study the next Bible passage together to develop a main point and some possible applications.

But then let the apprentice pull it off. Be a coach, not a lifeguard. You might call the plays, but you’re not allowed on the field. You can’t jump in for the rescue when things go wrong.

In short, if you keep your grip while passing the baton, you’ll never finish the race.

When to Suspend an Apprentice’s Training

February 26, 2016 By Peter Krol

Though Canaan would later hold about 2 million Israelites, Abraham released Lot, his heir and protege, on the younger man’s excuse that “the land could not support both of them” (Gen 13:5-6).¹

The prophet Elisha sent his servant Gehazi out of his presence (2 Kings 5:27). Paul chose rather to split from his partner Barnabas than continue training John Mark (Acts 15:37-40). And though Jesus trained many disciples, there were also many he could not or would not train (Luke 9:57-62, Mark 5:18-20, 10:21-22, John 6:66).

I confess it’s not a pleasant topic, but it’s one we must grapple with. Not all apprentices will complete their training and lead their own Bible studies. Some will pull themselves out of the training, and others will need to be pulled out. How do leaders make such decisions?

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Clear Guidance from Jesus

In the Sermon on the Mount, Jesus spoke to his disciples—within earshot of the crowds (Matt 5:1-2)—about what sort of people make up the citizenry of the kingdom of heaven (Matt 5:3, 10, 20, etc.). After explaining how such citizens can perfectly fulfill the law (Matt 5:17-48), find reward from their Father in heaven (Matt 6:1-18), and treasure this kingdom above all else (Matt 6:19-34), Jesus ends on a sober note.

Not content merely to define the kingdom’s citizens, he wants those citizens to be able to identify those who look like kingdom citizens but truly are not (Matt 7:1-6). Brothers and dogs are not the same species, and they require different tactics. In fact, Jesus urges his disciples to ask for discernment to see the difference between the two (Matt 7:7-12).

Then, assuming they do in fact want this discernment, Jesus concludes his sermon with a series of contrasts meant to sharpen the distinction (Matt 7:13-27). These contrasts will help us decide when to suspend an apprentice’s training.

Please note: I am not suggesting that every apprentice who drops out—or must be kicked out—of Bible study training is necessarily a dog, an outsider to Christ’s kingdom. For example, John Mark eventually turned around and became useful to Paul for ministry (2 Tim 4:11). And some who rejected Jesus later believed (John 7:5, 1 Cor 9:5, James 1:1, Jude 1:1).

I am merely suggesting that if someone currently shows the signs that one outside the kingdom would show, you may want to reconsider whether further leadership training is a good investment. You may honor the Lord by giving this person time to grow, and by finding someone else heading in the same direction you are.

What to Expect

Jesus’ first contrast has mostly to do with expectations (Matt 7:13-14):

Enter by the narrow gate. For the gate is wide and the way is easy that leads to destruction, and those who enter by it are many. For the gate is narrow and the way is hard that leads to life, and those who find it are few.

As you train new leaders, remember that few find the way to life. Many—even among those who confess Jesus as Lord (Matt 7:21)—keep themselves on the wide, easy way, the one with destruction, not life, at its end.

So set your expectations appropriately. Many people you meet will not be interested in Jesus. Many people interested in Jesus will not be interested in Bible study. Many people interested in Bible study will not make good leadership candidates. And not many leadership candidates will become good leaders.

It’s a sad fact of life on a fallen planet. But knowing this fact, you’ll be more effective as a trainer. When you find the right people, you will go farther faster than if you keep dragging the wrong people along with you.

Test #1: Bearing Fruit

Jesus’ second contrast tells us what to look for (Matt 7:15-23):

Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep’s clothing but inwardly are ravenous wolves. You will recognize them by their fruits…Thus you will recognize them by their fruits. Not everyone who says to me ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven…

When training your apprentices, look for fruit. And in particular, the fruit you’re looking for is not merely a confession of Christ (Matt 7:21). False prophets will look just like sheep: attending, serving, listening, learning, engaging with the community. The fruit is also not ministry success. Some false prophets will claim to speak in God’s name. Some will cast out demons and truly help people. Others will do many mighty works in Jesus’ name (Matt 7:22).

But the only fruit that matters is the fruit of doing the Father’s will (Matt 7:21). And Jesus already made clear: The Father’s will has to do with character: spiritual poverty, mourning, meekness, thirsting for righteousness, mercy, purity, peacemaking, endurance (Matt 5:3-12).

Test #2: Hearing and Doing

Jesus’ final contrast has to do with openness to instruction (Matt 7:24-27):

Everyone then who hears these words of mine and does them will be like a wise man who built his house on the rock…And everyone who hears these words of mine and does not do them will be like a foolish man who built his house on the sand…

As you train your apprentices, you will instruct them. And I hope you instruct them with Jesus’ words from Scripture. As you do, pay attention to how the apprentices respond.

If they regularly argue with you or fight the instruction, watch out. If they blame people in the group for their mistakes, watch out. If they make excuses for everything you bring up, watch out. If they withdraw, get touchy, or are difficult to approach—watch out. If they point out everything you’ve done wrong, listen and learn. And then watch out.

But if they take the instruction to heart and do it—you’ve found something rare and precious.

Two gates, two fruit trees, and two builders. These three contrasts will help you know whether to suspend an apprentice’s training or continue moving forward.

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¹ Some may object that I’m quoting the narrator and not Lot. Yet I would argue from the flow of the story that, on this point, the narrator tells the tale from Lot’s perspective and not as an objective observer.

5 Signs They’re Ready to Lead

February 19, 2016 By Peter Krol

As you train a new Bible study leader, how do you know when the person is ready to start leading? When should you move an apprentice from the “I do, you help” to the “You do, I help” stage of training? If we advance people too quickly, they may burn out and give up. If we move them too slowly, the training could become stagnant and lifeless. What are the signs of a good balance?

1. When they ask for more

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I made this point when I wrote of the prior transition between stages, and I repeat it now. High commitment + low motivation = small chance of long-term perseverance. But when your apprentice is motivated to take more responsibility, it’s worth it to consider giving it.

2. When they can communicate God’s word

By “communicate,” I mean more than “teach.” Of course they should be able to study the word and teach its main points. But potential leaders should also live out the word and habitually apply it to themselves. They handle the word well and allow it to handle them. Because Jesus said those who abide in his word show themselves his true disciples (John 8:31), this expectation marks a baseline for those who also want to make disciples.

3. When they have deep compassion for the people in the group

Jesus gave more signs of true disciples, one of which is love for one another (John 13:35). Jesus spoke and served out of deep compassion (Mark 6:34, 8:2), and his undershepherds are similarly motivated (1 Thess 2:8, 2:17-3:13). Is your apprentice driven more by the flock’s needs than by personal gain? Does the apprentice want a platform from which to speak, or is there an observable propensity to listen? Do group members trust the apprentice to have their best interests at heart?

4. When they have made sacrifices for the group and its members

If discipleship is costly (Luke 14:25-33), ministry is even more so. Those who will lead people must invest themselves in those people. Your apprentice prepares for leadership by making regular sacrifices for others, such as helping you to lead, coordinating activities, or getting together with group members outside the regular meeting. If you see these sacrifices taking place, without resentment or complaining, your apprentice may be ready to lead.

5. When group members trust them enough to follow them

Jesus’ final sign of true discipleship—bearing much fruit (John 15:8)—can be controversial, because we’re not sure how to hold people accountable to something over which they have no control. Even the best leaders can face widespread rejection and seasons of wilderness; they might have no control over people’s responses to their leadership. Just think of Moses (Exodus 2:11-15, 3:1), Elijah (1 Kings 19:1-18), and Paul (2 Tim 1:15). We can even think of Jesus himself (Mark 14:50, 15:34)—the one who could have controlled responses if he wanted to.

And yet we consider each of these leaders a hero. Though they experienced seasons of anguish, loneliness, and death, those seeds eventually sprouted into abundant fruit (John 12:24-26). That’s why the New Testament expects leadership candidates to experience seasons of testing (1 Tim 3:10) and accountability to things they can’t ultimately control (1 Tim 3:4-7).

Be ready to take risks on people who aren’t yet perfect. But also maintain high standards, and look for evidence of effective leadership. Look for the fruit of trusting, eager followers.

One Thing You Must Know About Meeting With Your Apprentice

February 12, 2016 By Peter Krol

If you’d like to train someone to lead a Bible study, and you’re ready to take the risk, you might just be waiting for a post about what to actually do when you meet with your apprentice. This is your post. There is one thing you must know, and then I’ll share some specifics about how I do it.

First, what you must know: You don’t need to follow a curriculum. The most common question I receive is “What materials do you use in your ministry?” And I don’t want to sound rude, but, ahem, the Bible is enough. You don’t need workbooks or study guides to tell you what question to ask next. Writers of study guides have much to offer, but they will never know as much as you do about you, your apprentice, your situation, or the needs of your small group. So make clear goals and find whatever direction you need. But major on getting to know your apprentice, shepherding his/her character, and discussing what will most help your group.

Now, when I say “you don’t need to follow a curriculum,” please don’t hear me saying you shouldn’t use a curriculum. Sometimes it can help. Sometimes it scratches the right itch. Sometimes.

So here’s what I do with my current apprentice, Jon. The training with my last apprentice looked different, but Jon and I are still early in our relationship, getting to know each other and learning how to encourage each other. Jon and I meet about every 2 weeks, at 8:15 pm on a weeknight (after our children are in bed), for 60-75 minutes.

“How was your week?”
“How is your marriage (or parenting) going?” (Insert major life responsibility, or chief character aim here.)
“How do you think our small group is going? What is good, and what should we work on?” (Questions 1-3 take 30-45 minutes)
Discuss one chapter of Knowable Word for about 10 minutes. Then we spend 15-20 minutes practicing those skills on the passage we studied at our last small group meeting (making the principles explicit).
Pray for the group and for each other.

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This meeting is neither an interview nor a lecture, but a conversation. I inject it with as much of my personal life as possible so we can get to know each other. Because I’m not the holy Prophet descending the mountain to convey my wisdom before returning to my contemplation, the relationship goes in both directions.

After we finish Knowable Word, I’ll probably have Jon read Growth Groups by Colin Marshall. But again, the discussion will center on the need of the moment, not the next approved subject. The key is not to follow a plan, but to live life together and offer real-time coaching.

I’d love to hear what else you’ve found effective in training apprentices.

The Only Way to Learn

February 10, 2016 By Peter Krol

Last week, Tim Challies wrote a great article called “The Hidden Beauty of a Bad Sermon.” Challies describes all the poor sermons he sat through at his church, because they were training young preachers. And Challies simply knocks it out of the park when he describes the only way a young preacher can learn to preach:

A man can read a hundred books on preaching and watch a thousand sermons on YouTube, but the only way he will really learn to preach is to preach. Sooner or later he will simply need to stand behind a pulpit, open his Bible, and launch into his introduction (assuming he remembers to actually prepare one). There are not many preachers who get away without preaching a few stinkers along the way. There are not many preachers who can become skilled without first being novices, who can grow into excellence without first being mediocre or average.

In light of my recent reflections on why it’s hard to delegate responsibility and how we need to take more risks in training ministry apprentices, I found Challies’s article timely. Though Challies singles out preachers, his comments apply equally to any teacher or Bible study leader.

Young preachers, new preachers, preach bad sermons. They preach bad sermons as they learn to preach good sermons. And in some ways, those bad sermons serve as a mark of a church’s health and strength because they prove that the church is fulfilling its mandate to raise up the next generation of preachers and the one after that. They prove that the church refuses to be so driven by a desire to display excellence that they will not risk the occasional dud. They prove that the congregation is mature enough to endure and even appreciate these first, messy attempts. There is hidden beauty, hidden value, in these bad sermons.

I wish I could quote the whole article. Check it out!

Find the Courage to Let Them Try

February 5, 2016 By Peter Krol

Two of my daughters are 18 months apart in age. And Little Sis wants to try everything Big Sis does. Big Sis reads a book; Little Sis wants to read the same book. Big Sis plays a sport; Little Sis wants to try the same sport. Papa hurls Big Sis into the air during a playful tussle; Little Sis demands fellowship in behurlment.

Little Sis spouts her “Can I try?” mantra like a doll with a pull string, and her repetitive, invasive pushiness tempts most of her siblings past the brink of annoyance. Honestly, I’m tempted to be annoyed by it…until I remember how biblical it is.

The Risk of Dumb Ideas

The second stage of training a Bible study apprentice is “I do; you help.” In this stage, you invite the apprentice not only to watch you lead but also to lead along with you. You give the apprentice real responsibility, which is hard to do.

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But as you let that leash out, you run the risk of the apprentice coming up with ideas. And the apprentice may want to carry out some of those ideas. And some of those ideas will be dumb.

Let’s say you are God in the flesh, and you can master the elements of nature however you see fit. You are special, and there is nobody on earth like you. Though most human leaders feel indispensable, only you truly are indispensable. You can do things nobody else can do. In fact, you must do things nobody else can do.

So you go about your business, proving you are the Son of God and preparing to die for the sin of the world. And one night, during the fourth watch, you do the impossible, striding across the sea as though it were a stage for one of your grandest pronouncements: “Take heart; it is I.”

And suddenly, from the cheap seats, a pipsqueak chirps: “Lord, if it is you, command me to come to you on the water.” Yeah, he’s your top guy. Yeah, you’re training him for leadership in great things. You’ve let him begin to help with your ministry. But he’s still a pipsqueak, and it’s still a dumb idea. Shoot it down. Now.

“Come.” (Matt 14:25-33). What?!

Find a Leader’s True Courage

My point is that none of us can out-risk Jesus. Unlike us, he would have succeeded by letting the world revolve around him. Of course, he did exactly that, after a fashion (Col 1:16-17). But unlike us, he quickly drew others in and relied on them to assist in the work. He had the courage to set them loose and let them try things.

He wouldn’t let them exact vengeance (Luke 9:51-56), and he never tolerated idleness (John 4:27, 35-38). But he constantly let them try things.

“You give them something to eat.”
“How many loaves do you have?”
“Go into the villages.”
“I will make you fishers of men.”
“Go and make disciples of all nations.”

Jesus knew he was in control and could turn their mistakes into something beautiful. Our hope is the same: Jesus is in control and can turn mistakes into something beautiful. His resurrection guarantees his plan to make all things new, so we don’t have to fear failure on the part of immature or inexperienced apprentices. When we believe this good news, we’ll find the courage to let them try, and occasionally fail.

Why It’s Hard to Delegate Responsibility

January 29, 2016 By Peter Krol

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In family life, we call them helicopter parents, because they hover close and swoop in when their wards need rescue. They keep younglings caged and well-padded. They argue over grades with college professors. They sit in on job interviews. They expect daily phone calls and pre-decision consultations.

And these “helicopter parents” run rampant also in Christian ministry. I confess: I am prone to be one of them. But by way of contrast, let me tell a few stories.

Eighteen Months

I know one guy who served the Lord in a previously unreached part of the world. This community tolerated monotheism, and some folks had been influenced by Jewish ideas. But they had never heard of Jesus or his saving work until this man arrived. His ministry got kicked out of its meeting place several times. He made a remarkable number of enemies. He was even abducted and brought before the local judge on charges of anarchy (thankfully, he was acquitted). But he stayed there for a total of 18 months, preaching and making disciples. When God called him elsewhere, he left a thriving church with regular worship services, a reputation for strong teaching, and a group of pastors and elders to shepherd them.

Did you hear that? This guy trained and launched leaders from unbelief, through conversion, and into competent shepherding in 18 months! If someone new came to my Bible study, I might not even let them lead a prayer time in 18 months. I care too much to allow such reckless indiscretion.

On-the-Job Training

Another fellow in my acquaintance focused on itinerant ministry. He gathered a few trainees about him and poured himself into them, while he hit the preaching circuit. I was amazed by his ability to turn absolutely anything into an object lesson. He coached, explained things, served people, and let his apprentices participate and practice. Within a few years, he began booking his apprentices to preach on his behalf.

While I appreciated the multiplying ministry, I also had significant concerns here. A few of these apprentices didn’t yet have a clear Christology (doctrine of Christ). They hadn’t gone to seminary or received any other formal theological training. But this missionary was convinced their syllabus for learning needed a good proportion of teaching to help them progress faster in their training. It was pretty risky and almost created a disaster.

What Holds Us Back

Why is it so hard for me (and perhaps for you) to let people go, to send them out and let them try their hand at ministry? Why do we hover, hang on to responsibility, and pass things off with stalwart reluctance?

Of course, there are many possible answers. But the main reason for me is that I fear failure. It’s the same reason I hated group projects as a student. It’s why I carry burdens I don’t need to carry. It’s why I find it easiest to do something myself.

Can you relate?

Do you ever feel like an unskilled apprentice would reflect negatively on your leadership?
Do you think the stakes are too high for the people you minister to, for a newbie to make mistakes in caring for them?
Do you believe you’re caring for weaker brothers or sisters when you cushion their fall?

One of the best ways people learn is by feeling the pain of their mistakes. If we are serious about training others to lead Bible studies (or do any other kind of ministry), we must take risks. We must launch apprentices quickly, bring them back to debrief, and send them out to try it again. We need to give them real authority to try things. We must be okay with imperfection. We have to make peace with some people’s needs going unmet while the apprentice figures out how to meet them. We can’t jump in and fix it.

We should be okay with mistakes in the Bible study, mistakes in the small group, mistakes in the pulpit. We should never hammer ministry apprentices for trying and failing, though we might need to admonish them for not really trying.

I was not ready to lead my first Bible study, but I needed that first one so the second one could be better. Someone trusted me enough to let me try it. If I were that leader, training up that younger me, I might not have taken the risk. But I praise God for the courageous leaders in my life, and I want to be more like them.

Postscript: I want my argument to be biblical and not merely anecdotal, so allow me to introduce my two missionary friends from the case studies above. You may find them in Acts 18:1-18 and Luke 10:1-24.

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4 Ways an Apprentice Can Help with Your Small Group

January 22, 2016 By Peter Krol

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The second stage of training a new Bible study leader is “I do, you help.” When your apprentice is ready to help, will you have something for that person to do? Here are some areas to consider.

1. Help with Logistics

As you give your apprentices some responsibility for the group, they can feel more ownership and demonstrate faithfulness. And as they show faithfulness in small things, you can entrust even greater things to them. Helping with logistics may involve recruiting, hosting, communicating, advertising, bringing a snack, or planning a group activity.

2. Help with Shepherding

Your goal in training a new Bible study leader should ultimately be to raise up a new shepherd of God’s people. So apprentices will learn much by learning to help you shepherd people. Apprentices can help shepherd people during the meeting: Asking good questions, encouraging quiet people to speak, or following up with prayer requests from previous meetings. They can also help shepherd people between meetings: Calling folks in the group, meeting with them for lunch, or connecting with outreach contacts. Ministry experience will help apprentices learn to lead better Bible studies.

3. Help with Preparation

Include your apprentice in your Bible study preparation. Though you could get it done faster by yourself, apprentices won’t learn unless you let them in. Meet with them before the meeting to go over the passage. Show them how to observe and investigate the text. Give them a voice to help shape your main point and craft specific applications for the small group.

4. Help with Evaluation

After the meeting, ask your apprentice how it went. How clear was the study? What was helpful or unhelpful? How were people responding? What was good? What could be better? What could we do to follow up on things that were said?

When leading a group, it’s great to have some help from an apprentice. This means we have to ask for help. But sometimes we fail to think of how apprentices can help because we’re too busy keeping all the responsibility for ourselves. So the main idea is to give apprentices real responsibility. In the next post I’ll expand on why it’s often difficult for us to do this.

5 Signs They’re Ready to Help

December 18, 2015 By Peter Krol

As you train a new Bible study leader, how do you know when the person is ready to begin helping? When should you move an apprentice from the “I do, you watch” to the “I do, you help” stage of training? If we advance people too quickly, they may burn out and give up. If we move them too slowly, the training could become stagnant and lifeless. What are the signs of a good balance?

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1. When they ask for more

Don’t miss this critical sign on account of your grand master planning. Though there are times for challenging people to step up to something new and scary, it’s generally not a good idea to heap burdens of responsibility on unwilling victims. High commitment + low motivation = small chance of long-term perseverance. “If anyone aspires to the office of overseer, he desires a noble task” (1 Tim 3:1). A Bible study leader is not the same as a church elder, but I don’t think it’s a stretch to apply the same leadership principle.

2. When they develop proficiency in basic Bible study skills

They don’t have to be top scholars, but they do need to grasp the rudiments of OIA Bible study (Observe, interpret, apply). If not, I would begin by teaching those rudiments. You are, after all, training this person to lead a Bible study. Best to make sure this person knows how to study the Bible and doesn’t merely seek a platform for greater control over people’s lives or propagation of personal opinions.

3. When they’re aware of group dynamics

I’ve tried to train leaders who were clueless about how to read people, respond to social cues, or adjust their approach to the need of the moment. It hasn’t gone well. Before giving people more responsibility, make sure they know how to listen actively and carry on a conversation. Especially make sure they generally know when to talk and when to let others talk.

4. When they get your vision for the group

You don’t want to train apprentices up to multiply your group, only to have them take the new groups where you don’t think they should go. And you’ll all be frustrated if you can’t eventually trust your apprentices to lead their own groups. Some painful splits can be prevented by making sure the vision for Bible study, heart-oriented discipleship, and pastoral care are clear up front.

5. When they serve more than they seek to be served

Of course, a new apprentice often brings a fresh perspective and helps us to see things we wouldn’t otherwise see. If apprentices look more to the needs of others than to their own needs, this can be a great blessing. You can teach someone to study the Bible. You can teach someone to lead a Bible study. You can challenge apprentices to put the needs of others first. But you can’t actually make them put others first. Such disciples are gifts from the Lord. Don’t squander them. Set them loose, and let them help.